I agree with you with the confrontation-vs-integration part, however I’m not sure if that’s what the author is actually doing in this case. Confrontation would mean defy straight assholes that used to beat him up, but I think that having a blog read by (at least, I assume) 80-90% queers does not confront the stereotype in any way; I even think it reinforces the shame young gay people would have regarding their sexual desires.

To me, the best way to piss off these status quo jocks would be to have them actually read something like that, and not to keep gay editorials strictly on gay blogs; the visibility just isn’t there.

I agree with you that those desires should be widely accepted as normal sexual desires. But we all at least have an idea how hard it can be to “confront” your social environment (relatives, not-queer friends etc.) with your sexual identity/orientation. I would not blame some teenage kid for not being brave enough to do that (and he mentions being beaten up btw.). Blame the heterosexist status quo where being straight is “normal” and every thing else seen as a deviation. Radical Queers (I think punk & hardcore queers should be subsumed under this label) should long for confrontation, not silent integration.

That’s practically what I’m doing. But how can you separate a text from its author if he’s depicting his own behavior through it?

Don’t worry, I’m not English either.

And for my point, well, you pretty much summed it up for me. The issue here is not to whom he’s attracted to, but rather how he chooses to express and, most importantly, fulfill it. Creating new social spheres for his private desires is exactly what segregation is. What I meant is that having that kind of fantasies should be widely accepted in the mainstream, however he seems to willingly hide it behind a closely knit group of individuals,that is a few queer friends and the reader of his blogs, so no one else notices about it.

My argument here is not whether if liking big sweaty guys is good or bad, but rather in what context he chooses to express it. And I don’t think writing it in a blog is as near as rewarding as actually trying to live up to it.

Don’t get me wrong, Sam did actually appreciate the band for its music, but the fact that he’s down to shows to be able to smell the sweat of big dudes and then come back home to jerk off thinking about it just grossed me out.

Reading this, I had the impression to read a 16-year old that’s still in the closet and spends his time going to punk shows just so he could make out with his other homo friends that night. To me, that’s not quite the behavior gay people should have if they ever claim to be socially integrated; it’s auto-segregation more than anything else.

Now I know the blogger IS out, but isn’t blogging some kind of anonymous in itself? In that case, it looks like the author wrote this as an exit door because he didn’t feel comfortable saying that to anyone in the real life. I don’t think Agnostic Front would be very pleased to read this, not because of the straight/gay gap between them and not even because he’s got a kind of fancrush on the singer, but rather because he clearly paid his ticket for the wrong reason.